Don’t Call Me a Slut

“In the real world, Halloween is when kids dress up in costumes and beg for candy. In Girl World, Halloween is the one day a year when a girl can dress up like a total slut and no other girls can say anything else about it.”

-Cady, Mean Girls

To quote the infamous movie Mean Girls: “In the real world, Halloween is when kids dress up in costumes and beg for candy. In Girl World, Halloween is the one day a year when a girl can dress up like a total slut and no other girls can say anything else about it.”


Many of you will have attended halloween parties this past week, dressing up as witches, cats, vampires and so forth. Many of you girls, will have put on your best mini dresses, low cut halter tops and well, you will have shown some skin, perhaps more than you usually do. So was Cady right when she said that girls dress up “like a total slut” during halloween? I myself attended a party this past Friday wearing a dress tighter and shorter than I would usually wear and while I was dancing the question did come up in my mind, was I being a hypocrite? Could I be a feminist if I was wearing clothing that was so revealing? Was I now “a total slut?”


What even is the meaning of slut? Today anybody can be called a slut. It has become a term to degrade usually women, to make them feel inferior, insecure. According to some I was a slut just because of what I wore, to others I was not a slut because as Merriam Webster defines it, a slut is “a promiscuous woman a woman who has many sexual partners.” Either way, it usually has a negative connotation, made to put a women down. However,  I believe that despite this, we should start changing the narrative behind the word. The term could become empowering if we decide to see it as something powerful. If it means that, as a women to be allowed to express my sexual freedom, to be confident and comfortable in my own body  means being called a slut, than you know what, I will wear that title with pride. We have the power to take back the word and make it something that doesn’t necessarily have to be negative but can become something that is powerful and that a modern day women doesn’t have to fear of being called. However, this does mean that for a starter, girls to must stop slut-shaming one another. 

Photo credits: Victoria R, Pinterest


As even Cady indicated in her statement, it aren’t the boys who necessarily slut-shame but it are the girls. “No other girls can say anything else about it.” It aren’t the boys we are afraid to be slut shamed by but the girls. If we girls and women want to be seen as equals, we have to in the first instance stop putting one another down.How can we achieve anything if we remain fractured and cruel to one another? If a 100 years ago ,when the first feminist wave occurred women of colour, class,education and sexual orientation had seen one another as equal and fought together than maybe we would have achieved more by now. If we stop making one another insecure by labelling girls as whores and slut-shaming them behind their backs then maybe that one girl who got called a slut for wearing a low cut top now wouldn’t be ashamed of her body. Or that other girl who got judged for choosing to express her sexual freedom now would think herself worthy of love and not have believed that she was a whore. Or maybe that girl who wore a short skirt wouldnt believe that it was her fault that she got raped…


What we say has more impact than we know. Terms such as slut and whore are not just damaging to the individual but society as a whole. The Unslut Project is an organisation aimed to fight against sexual bullying as the consequences can be everlasting. Little girls growing to believe that expressing their sexuality and being confident is wrong. Putting one another down becomes a never ending cycle of hatred, dividing one another when really we need to be united. I encourage you all to check out this organisation and educate yourself and one another on the detrimental results caused by sexual bullying.Their website contains stories and videos of victims harmed by labels such as slut.    

The Unslut Project.com


So to link it back to Cady’s quote, yes maybe she was right that halloween is that one time a year where a girl will dress up as a total slut because it is the only time where she can truly be confident in who she is. She in that one night is truly powerful as she expresses her freedom and is comfortable without the risk of being judged. It is the one night where girls don’t slut shame one another and look at what an impact it has. 

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